Dating’s not supposed to be a mind game like chess, it’s supposed to be a fun playground game like tag. It’s full of giggles and wonder and sometimes you’re it, so tag the guy, and run away.
You don’t need to “incept” a man with the idea that he is chasing you. All you need to convince him of is that you are worth chasing. Do boys like to chase? Yes. Do girls like to be chased? Yes. Are gender roles malleable and open to interpretation in the world of modern dating? Yes. We all like people who are brave, self-aware, socially adept, and have their own lives they find engaging and fulfilling. Just be one of those people, and if he doesn’t think girls can be “It” in the game of tag, then you wouldn’t want to play with him anyway."
The worst feeling in the world is trying to play catch up only to be followed by the thoughts of what could have been. Timing is particularly cruel to me more often than not and loves nothing more than to muddle with my head. I’m not one to warm up to someone quickly and in most cases, it takes me a long time to finally make up my mind. The only issue this time is there is no time left, for every departure you take I am here and for every departure I take you are there. What I once thought was the rest of April has quickly and instantly dissipated into the next two days. I don’t blame myself for how I am, as much as I wish things were different, this is me. I have known how you felt this entire time and I could never quite converge with your feelings. We were never on the same page, we probably still aren’t on the same page. But what mattered most was we were headed in the same direction. I’m not sure what the future holds currently, but I’m nervous yet hopeful of what it may bring.
My mom told me to “find a man who respects you like a sea captain respects the sea.” A man who looks at you with awe and reverence but knows you are a force of nature. I like that.